Many people might see things wrong with that situation. Young adults don't really know what they want; they don't always get a choice in the way things fall into place. People grow up and move on. We all deal with our faults and try to improve the only way we can. Slowly stumbling, back-tracking, tripping; all the-while trying to not look back. It literally is a life-long battle for everyone involved.
But for all of the things that were hard growing up, there were many positives. My parents were both the eldest of multiple children in their families. This gave me seven, count 'em seven aunts and uncles who were practically my brothers and sisters. We were close growing up. Time passed. They got married, I got cousins, and we all felt like as long as we had each other, we were never alone. My still-strong connections with many family members help my life feel more rich and less lonely. The ripples keep growing...cousins are married and having children of their own. One look at my Facebook page and you can see the plethora of love that surrounds me whenever I need it. That's what family is, right?
All of these fantastic family members, all these precious connections, are rooted from the most wonderful people in all the land. I'm sure everyone can say something similar, but with my soul I have to say that the leaders of the two sides of my families are my favorite people in the world. I grew up surrounded by grandparents and great-grandparents; each respected and loved for their place in the hierarchy of our huge family. For this reason, I'm thrilled that my parents were so young. I have been loved 10 times over. Bliss.
They're not all here anymore. The loss of such close family members is heart wrenching. What do you do when the strongest people with all the love and all the answers are gone? Believe me when I say that their passings were some of the hardest things I've ever dealt with...
I am now 40 and still have grandparents! I know how lucky I am. I also know they are not young anymore. They are not well. They will not live forever and losing them is going to kill me. I try to balance the impending losses with logic. I tell myself how blessed I've been to have them all this time, to be treated with the love only grandparents can provide. It is impossible to grasp. For now, I try to remember how special each one made me feel and that no one in the world can smile or hug or love like the beautiful parents of my parents. I will forever be grateful and reverent for the countless opportunities I had to be loved by each of them.
Happy Wednesday, friends :)
Dad, Mom and me -1972
My mom's mom and me -1970
my mom's mom and me 2011
my mom's dad and me- 1972
My mom's dad and me 1988
My dad's mom and me-1970
My dad's dad and me -1973
my dad's mom and dad and me 2009
My dad's mom and dad and me 2010